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When to Exercise Patience During Your Divorce

Posted on in Divorce

When to Exercise Patience During Your DivorceOne of the obstacles you must overcome during your divorce is your own impatience. There will be times when you feel that your divorce is taking too long and draining you emotionally and financially. You must resist the urge to speed through a divorce to get it over with. A hastily completed divorce may include oversights that leave you at a financial disadvantage. However, there are cases where spouses unnecessarily drag out the divorce process. You need to recognize the difference between inefficiency and impatience during your divorce.


There are many ways that spouses can needlessly prolong their divorces, including being:

  • Unprepared for negotiation meetings;
  • Disorganized at the meeting;
  • Slow to respond to requests; and
  • Overly argumentative during negotiations.

Often, the best way for you to avoid these inefficiencies during your divorce is to make sure you are not the side responsible for them. You must devote time to finding and organizing important information related to your divorce and be mentally prepared to discuss issues and make decisions during your negotiations. Unfortunately, there is little you can do if your spouse is disorganized or combative during the divorce. You can encourage greater efficiency, but your spouse may hesitate to follow any advice you give.


Even when both sides do their best to be efficient, a divorce can take months to complete. There are delaying factors that are beyond your control, such as:

  • The availability of both spouses and their attorneys;
  • Complex financial and parenting issues that are unique to your case; and
  • The need to schedule court dates as part of the process.

The divorce process is often stressful and uncomfortable, but you should not allow your eagerness to finish distract you. Divorce is about creating long-term stability for yourself and your children, not immediate gratification. Being impatient impairs your ability to carefully consider your future needs when making decisions. It can also put you at a disadvantage during negotiations if your spouse realizes that you are anxious to complete the process. In your eagerness to reach a settlement, you may accept an offer that favors your spouse.

Finding Patience

It is wise to turn to your divorce attorney for advice if you are unsure whether your divorce could be more efficient. The duration of your divorce process can depend on the complexities of your case and how busy your local divorce court is. A McHenry County divorce attorney at Botto Gilbert Lancaster, PC, understands how to maximize efficiency during divorce and when you must exercise patience. Schedule a free consultation by calling 815-338-3838.



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