Should You Announce Your Divorce on Facebook?Telling people about your decision to divorce can quickly become an emotionally exhausting task. First, you have to figure out an appropriate way to bring up the subject and how much information you want to share. Then, you brace yourself for the awkward responses and follow-up questions. Each conversation is rehashing a painful part of your life. Some people have decided to announce their divorce on social media so that dozens of conversations are consolidated into one. Facebook is the most popular medium for these announcements because it is ubiquitous and does not have character limitations. However, you should take your time to craft your message and consider whether this type of announcement is appropriate for you.


Facebook is not the first place you should go once you have decided to divorce. There are people who deserve to know about your divorce before you make the news public. You obviously need to have personal conversations with your children and other family members you are in regular contact with. You should also consider personally telling your closest friends. Think about how you would feel if you found out about your best friend’s divorce on Facebook. By telling them in advance, you are showing your friends that they are important to you and that you may need to rely on them for support during the divorce.

The Message

Though Facebook allows for long and rambling posts, you should keep your divorce announcement succinct:

It is ideal for you to present this post as a joint statement by yourself and your spouse. You can either write the message together or let your spouse read it in advance of you posting it. Tag your spouse when posting the message so it looks like it is from both of you. This should serve as your only social media post about your divorce.

The Reaction

The unfortunate part about using social media to announce your divorce is that people have less of a filter on the internet than in person. Friends and family may leave comments on the post that seem rude or make you uncomfortable. You should not respond to the comments or like any comments that are critical of your spouse. You can prevent unwanted responses by disabling comments on your post.

Handling Social Media 

Your spouse can use your social media posts against you during the divorce if they make you appear irresponsible or hurtful. A McHenry County divorce attorney at Botto Gilbert Lancaster, PC, can advise you on the best ways to portray yourself during your divorce. Schedule a free consultation by calling 815-338-3838.