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How Your Children's School Can Help Them During Your Divorce

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How Your Children's School Can Help Them During Your DivorceIt is important to remember that you are not alone when you are trying to help your children adjust to your divorce. Family, friends, and professionals can all play a role in getting your children through the sadness and uncertainty that comes with the sudden change in their lives. Your children’s school can be a vital resource during your divorce. Your children may spend more time with their teachers than with any other adults, outside of yourself and your spouse. With the new school year starting, now is a good time to talk to teachers and counselors at your child’s school about how they can help your child during your divorce.


When children are in elementary school, they spend most of the day with one teacher, who is in charge of their education and development. Your child’s teacher should know about the divorce because:

  • The divorce may affect your child’s behavior in the classroom;
  • The teacher needs to know the reason for your child’s behavior;
  • The teacher should be aware of how a disruptive home environment may make completing homework assignments more difficult; and
  • The teacher likely has experience handling students whose parents are going through a divorce.

A teacher is a strong role model in your child’s life and can help your child by showing compassion and understanding. This could include speaking to your child individually about his or her feelings, gently encouraging your child to participate in class and calming your child if his or her behavior is out of control.

School Counselors

Most teachers will want to help your child if they can but may be unable to provide your child with all of the help he or she needs. Teachers have a limited amount of time that they can devote to one student in a class. However, your child’s school may have a counselor or psychologist who is trained to help children who are going through emotional trauma. This specialist can schedule individual sessions with your child to discuss his or her emotions and how they relate to school. The counselor may also know of other resources that can help your child, such as a support group or child psychologist.

School as an Escape 

Your children’s time at school can be a haven for them by providing some normalcy while their personal lives are changing. You should still create as supportive and stable of a home environment as you can, given the circumstances. A McHenry County divorce attorney at Botto Gilbert Lancaster, PC, can help you make a parenting agreement that best provides for your children. Schedule a free consultation by calling 815-338-3838.



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